Black Holes, Denny’s Fist Fights & Japanese Handjob Culture - Rabbit Hole #4 - #1118

Speaking of shiny heads, would you guys insure hair loss in South Korea to boost births, or is that just state-funded looks-maxing for laughs?

Fun headline, wrong lever; when your security deposit can run like a year of rent and a multibillion-dollar pronatal push barely moves the needle, follicles aren’t the bottleneck—housing costs are.

K-pop bans dating, so your biggest stars model child-free life; flip it and only sign idols who already have kids, the Georgia-style third-child baptism hack but for pop culture.

Or go the billionaire route and underwrite IVF at scale; the incentives get weird fast.

What happens if tomorrow’s demographics skew toward the kids of billionaires plus the hyper‑religious?

You also get surges from very poor populations where fertility adjusts slowly after child survival improves, so the mix twenty years out is messy.

What have you been obsessing over besides the piano?

A book that runs from the big bang to the end of everything; I hit topics lightly but playfully, like turning the world wars into a late‑night Denny’s brawl so it sticks, and sometimes sprint a thousand years in one breath, then slow down for big collapses.

You’ve written monster posts; how did you get that deep access to SpaceX and later Neuralink?

Elon liked my early AI piece and said, talk to me and any engineer you want; I sat in Dragon, watched them chase the first rocket landing, later launched the Neuralink post with the company, and fought my procrastination while writing forty-thousand words he kept calling too long.

History’s priced like a stock market; what era is secretly underpriced?

The black hole era makes your brain melt; even if a centimeter equals a billion years, you’d need roughly a billion-plus observable universes worth of ribbon to reach its end, and the dark era after that is longer still, which is the kind of thought that ruins my sleep.

There’s a theory advanced civilizations hibernate until the universe cools so computation runs cheaper—did you bump into that?

Yeah, it’s a clean Fermi‑paradox answer: it looks quiet because the wise ones are napping through a few hundred billion years, then boot up when the physics are friendlier.

Also, supervoids—the Boötes hole is mind-bendingly empty; even our patch might be unusually sparse.

Right, and all of that awe is still inside the observable slice, which could be a grain of sand compared to the full thing.

Does thinking at that scale calm you or crush you?

It weirdly soothes me; I feel lucky to be conscious for a blink and it makes debts and hassles shrink, though writing about empires falling still hits too close to home.

Rome didn’t post a status the day it ended; the lesson is that decline is fuzzy and people keep insisting it’s fine long after the peak.

Quick detour: there’s a site cataloging school ‘facts’ now disproven; it’s a fun reminder that we all learned myths.

For kids, start with simple, proud civic stories and add nuance as they can handle it; front‑loading doom and shame into third grade backfires.

Optimism creates agency, so the early story should make you want to engage with the world, not hide from it.

On guardrails, the UK and Australia pushing under‑sixteen social bans makes sense; if we invented these platforms today, we’d never hand them to kids unfiltered.

I’m all for restricting it; Jonathan Haidt’s work is persuasive and he’s helped drive real policy changes with a tiny team.

He bridges tribes better than fire‑breathers; even if some conservatives grumble at his tone, he moves the middle, and dialing back kid‑screen harm could be one of the biggest quiet wins of our era.

If you want leverage, fund that kind of work; small checks can bend the arc here.

Show‑and‑tell: xylitol mouthwash tablets are my easy travel swap; chew, swish, spit, and you’ve got an antibacterial assist without lugging a bottle.

I shape my environment too—desiccated liver caps I’ll actually take, piles of fidget toys on the desk, and when I’m stuck I call my longtime assistant, talk it through, and write down the good lines as they pop.

Dictation and even being interviewed can unlock stuck sections; pacing or pen‑spinning seems to occupy the monkey mind so deeper thinking can work.

My killer bug is inertia; I’ll delay starting for hours, so I screen‑share with my assistant as social pressure and suddenly the work starts and keeps rolling.

I’m trying a barbell for thinking: skip the mushy middle; either go full quiet or go deep, and if a thought loops, switch to hands, mouth, or feet—write it, speak it, or walk it.

On naming ideas, I coined Kesha’s Law—avoid current references or they’ll age your art—and MJ’s Law, which says music can make people nod along even while hearing damning facts.

Tribal identity does similar magic; some figures had so much goodwill that only the worst revelations pierced it, and even then many doubled down on belief.

Two more coinages: teladultry—watching ahead on ‘our’ show—and hallucinatives, the folks who treat AI outputs as gospel; I still need a name for the do‑not‑disturb callback loop that traps all our calls.

Good labels change behavior; ‘cancel culture’ clicked because it captured a vague vibe, and my ‘dark playground’ gave procrastinators words for guilt‑soaked fake leisure so they could exit it.

The Tail End breaks your heart on purpose: most in‑person time with parents happens before you’re twenty, so either move closer or treat every visit like the precious, finite thing it is and schedule them like you mean it.

That post pushed me to plan multi‑week family trips so we share adventures, bank photos, and get the joy of anticipation too.

Peak joy often hits before the party, not on the dance floor but in the get‑ready moment when everything’s about to lift, which says anticipation is the bullseye for dopamine.

I feel that in life too—Friday afternoon can feel better than Saturday, and on the flip side I’d rather learn bad news late, not stew for months.

Regret is unavoidable, so the real move is choosing which regret you can live with, especially on major commitments like marriage or kids.

In love you’re picking a set of flaws you can accept, so define a few real deal breakers you won’t budge on and stop auditioning people for a hundred tiny preferences.

Well‑meant wisdom can backfire on the overthinkers; telling everyone their partner choice is the single most important decision can freeze the exact people who already over‑optimize.

Constraint saves brilliance from drowning in options—look at General Magic or Jodorowsky’s Dune, wild talent density that still failed because possibilities weren’t bounded.

Naming the must‑haves and must‑nots helps more than chasing perfection, and that goes for life design too—constraints anchor sanity.

A sneaky relationship killer is bedtime lag; if you don’t sleep and wake within roughly an hour of each other, the friction and lost time add up.

You can make offset schedules work by trading chores and shifts, especially with pets or kids, as long as it’s explicit and fair.

We still haven’t named this series, and the power of titles is real—one clever rename can turn a dud book into a phenomenon.

Names matter more for consumer products than deep B2B, and for books I’ll nominate Awareness by Anthony de Mello as a masterpiece hidden behind a quiet title and muddled subtitle.

It’s a short, blunt guide to watching your own mind—harsh, funny, and sticky—with stories that help you see the biases driving your choices.

I love crisp concepts that unlock a worldview, like advice hyper‑responders—some people over‑absorb hard‑charging advice while the intended audience sails on unchanged.

That’s why self‑awareness is gold, but too much turns into self‑conscious paralysis; know when you already go too far and skip the push‑harder sermon.

If you dropped a secretly miserable person into a room, who in your life could spot them fastest, and what makes that skill trainable?

People like Esther Perel can see the real subtext within minutes, which is why some therapists and interviewers feel almost psychic.

High EQ often shows up with animals too; I’ve seen wolves gravitate to the most wounded visitor, and good handlers read fear and thresholds across species.

Treat your brain like a mammal you’re training—shape behavior with small wins and smart cues, because you’re running on primate hardware.

Karen Pryor’s Don’t Shoot the Dog explains why shaping and timely rewards beat punishment, how clickers migrated from dolphins to dogs, and how the same logic works on us.

Dopamine drives the loop for dogs and humans alike, which is exactly what social platforms weaponize when they drip out little treats for our attention.

Civilization domesticated us as surely as we domesticated animals, so when the grid wobbles you quickly see how thin the veneer really is.

I watched a neighborhood turn tense in under a day during a blackout—courtesy melts fast when freezers thaw and one guy has a generator.

For a nuanced take on conquest, Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World and Dan Carlin’s Wrath of the Khans show how brutality and institution‑building coexisted.

A‑plus work ignores the rules—think Dan Carlin’s five‑hour episodes—so don’t be spooked by the sea of mediocre content as AI cranks out more of it.

The Japan‑to‑US translation firehose on X is revealing surreal gems—like the hand‑job parlor diarist funding his rounds with creator payouts—alongside a bigger story of cultures blending online.

The net flattens difference, which is a loss because cultural variety is the engine of creativity, and subcultures now struggle to harden before they’re absorbed.

Things fade without fanfare—voicemail vanished from daily life—while mullets and mustaches cycle back like fashion boomerangs.

Odd biology note: domestic pigs set loose can grow tusks and go feral in months—a rapid phenotypic snap‑back.

On the health front, I’ve been testing Avmacol, which supports sulforaphane production and NRF2 pathways; unproven but plausible for neuroprotection, and my skin oddly improved after adding it.

By the way, a big microplastics scare may be overstated because lab gloves were shedding particles that mimicked polyethylene in the instruments.

I’m not a doctor, but I like interventions that nudge internal detox systems instead of piling on external antioxidants.

Graphic novels have been my focus hack—visual storytelling tames my runaway imagery—so try Something Is Killing the Children, Lazarus, Monstress, and the deeply human Daytripper.

Reading wise, I loved The Order of Time on audio, Fraction of the Whole for riotous fiction, and I’ll defend the Three‑Body trilogy: slow prose and thin characters, but world‑class plotting that explodes in book two.

If you want a first‑line jolt, Seveneves opens with the moon blowing up; for pure momentum, Red Rising and Dungeon Crawler Carl are dangerously bingeable.

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At hiagency.com/books, meet Oblomov, a Russian classic where a man agonizes over getting out of bed for dozens of pages—and somehow it sings.

That was a blast—thanks for going down a dozen tunnels with us, and we’ll see you back in the warren soon.